very nice mUUser, I found it very difficult to let my daughter make her own choices when I knew what was best for herOriginally Posted by mUUser
It's a tough lesson to realize they are their own unique individuals and they are simply on lease to you for a short while.
very nice mUUser, I found it very difficult to let my daughter make her own choices when I knew what was best for her
It's a tough lesson to realize they are their own unique individuals and they are simply on lease to you for a short while.
Well its been three years since our big talk, and it seems clear my youngest daughter has moved on from her association with the church. Of course I'm disappointed, but, she's so doggone sweet to us that its difficult to too disappointed. On the other hand, my oldest daughter who's a senior in college, has approached us about the possibility of serving a mission after graduation -- something that's been gnawing on her lately. Life is a great adventure with kids.
“Children and dogs are as necessary to the welfare of the country as Wall Street and the railroads.” -- Harry S. Truman
"You never soar so high as when you stoop down to help a child or an animal." -- Jewish Proverb
"Three-time Pro Bowler Eric Weddle the most versatile, and maybe most intelligent, safety in the game." -- SI, 9/7/15, p. 107.
I had a friend of mine summarize parenting as "an exercise in adaptation."
You just never know what you're going to get moment to moment from your kids, and they are all different.
A lady my dad used to work with once summed it up by saying: "You never know which tire will go flat"
“It only ends once. Anything that happens before that is just progress.”
Well, because he thought it was good sport. Because some men aren't looking for anything logical, like money. They can't be bought, bullied, reasoned, or negotiated with. Some men just want to watch the world burn.
Being a parent now has helped me realize how much of my parent's seeming unreasonableness was tied to my teenage ability to be inconsiderate.
We call it an exciting marathon. Lots of hills and valleys, and it ain't over until it's over.
"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."
--Antoine de Saint-Exupery
"Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold."
--Yeats
“True, we [lawyers] build no bridges. We raise no towers. We construct no engines. We paint no pictures - unless as amateurs for our own principal amusement. There is little of all that we do which the eye of man can see. But we smooth out difficulties; we relieve stress; we correct mistakes; we take up other men's burdens and by our efforts we make possible the peaceful life of men in a peaceful state.”
--John W. Davis, founder of Davis Polk & Wardwell
This is the part I was not prepared for. I took off from my parents pretty damn early and never looked back. After raising kids now for almost a quarter of a century, the realization that there is no real light at the end of the tunnel (particularly where the wife's maternal instincts don't seem to weaken) is very sobering.
Last edited by Two Utes; 07-18-2017 at 04:22 PM.
You should just be like your mother and make things so miserable that they do everything possible to leave.
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"Be a philosopher. A man can compromise to gain a point. It has become apparent that a man can, within limits, follow his inclinations within the arms of the Church if he does so discreetly." - The Walking Drum
"And here’s what life comes down to—not how many years you live, but how many of those years are filled with bullshit that doesn’t amount to anything to satisfy the requirements of some dickhead you’ll never get the pleasure of punching in the face." – Adam Carolla
Are you suggesting: “Adversity is without doubt a great teacher, but it’s lessons come at a cost and often what one gains from them is not worth what one paid for them.”—Jeans Jaques Rousseau
Come on man. We shared the same womb with Two Utes, and we are who we are: reasonably successful men, good husbands and fathers due primarily to the same remarkable, yet wonderfully complex woman who raised us. Your cynicism above only suits whiny frenchmen.
Raising kids is hard, especially so as they approach adulthood.
This article belongs here. For those of you who believe that the new generation will change the world for the better, don't hold your breath. They're not going to do it from the comfort of their bedrooms at home with Mom and Dad:
Not drinking or driving, teens increasingly put off traditional markers of adulthood
https://www.washingtonpost.com/local...=.60ced6a9bede
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